In Titus 2:3-5, the apostle Paul instructs the older women to teach the younger women to be “keepers at home.” How can the home be kept when the mother is gone most of the time? When the mother fulfills her God-given role, she is foundational in the building of a home. The enemy has rigorously attacked this foundation in an attempt to destroy homes and ultimately families. The secular world has weakened the family unit through this preposterous agenda of today’s society where both parents are employed and the children under school age are hauled off to various forms of care which include a babysitter, relatives, a nanny, or most likely–the day care center.
This lifestyle has become the norm of modern society. Now for a woman to obey the Word of God and become a stay-at-home mother is not only a revolutionary act, but also a questionable one. Why? The notorious Feminist Movement has pushed its twisted agenda of encouraging women to pursue careers and enter the labor force, thus robbing the home of its most essential factor.
In 1975, only a few generations ago, more than half of all children had a stay-at-home mother. Now fewer than one-in-three children have a fulltime stay-at-home parent and almost 25% of children under the age of five are in some form of organized child care arrangement such as day care centers, nurseries, and preschools.
The average child will spend an approximate 1,250 days in day care from 8 weeks old to 5 years old. This is an estimation of 5 days a week and roughly 10 hours a day which only leaves a precious 4 hours spent in the home where the parent actually attends to the child’s daily needs. How can parent-child relationships remain healthy when the child spends the majority of his time in the care of others?
The idea of a double income being necessary to support the average home while paying for child care is illogical. Let’s take a look at data from 8 years ago as well as some recent statistics based on a research of the United States concerning child care costs:
• The annual cost of child care for an infant in a day care center is higher than a year’s tuition at the average 4-year public college in most states. In 2010, the weekly average child care payment (for children under five years of age) consumed 10.1% of the family’s budget. In 2016, the average annual cost for infant care at a centerbased day care was $10,468!
• Low-income families spend a considerable average of 49.5% of their monthly income on child care and those with children under the age of five spend more than half of their monthly income–a staggering 52.7%!
• Sixty-three percent stated that child care costs have influenced their career decisions.
• Thirty-three percent resorted to changing jobs in order to increase income.
• Thirty-two percent reported spending 20% or more of their annual household income on child care costs.
• As of 2016, seventy-two percent now budget for child care, but thirty percent rarely stay within the budget, and sixty-nine percent go over the budget by a $100 or more per month.
• In 2017, thirty-two percent were even willing to go in debt to pay for child care–a seven percent increase from the previous year.
• AND child care costs continue to rise!
Realistically, these costs are unreasonable prices that accelerate beyond the pocketbook! Forty percent admit that child care costs create tension in their marital relationship, yet eighty-one percent declare that despite all costs, it is worth the money to use child care. What incomprehensible reasoning is this!
This unwarranted decision has a drastic impact on the child that will affect him for the rest of his life. Every child needs a consistent figure in his life–especially in early childhood–and will naturally create an emotional attachment to someone.
The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development records studies from 1991 to 2007 disclosing negative behavior in children who had formerly been in child care. Frequent staff turnover (30%) causes instability for the child. This will affect his confidence and trust in others as an adult. Continuous care, unbroken by separation, is very essential in the maintenance of primary attachments, which heavily influence a child’s emotional regulation and social behavior. Children in child care are known to suffer separation anxiety and insecurity, resulting into problems of inferiority.
Long hours in day care and stressful parent-child relationships are associated with angry aggression in preschool children. Non-parental care is proven to create high stress levels that adversely affect behavior. Teachers have noted that students who formerly spent an average of 10 or more hours per week in day care tend to be more argumentative, disobedient, and unruly in class.
There is a God-created connection between parent and child that is basically irreplaceable, therefore positioning the parent as the best possible caregiver.
Parents are continually being persuaded that day care will provide many learning opportunities such as preschool education benefits and extra-curricular activities, yet fail to realize that a child placed in that particular insecure environment will experience a greater difficulty in mastering or comprehending anything. In the fall of 2014, the state of Mississippi reported two-thirds of preschool children educated in day care were unprepared to enter kindergarten.
For infants ranging from 8 weeks old to 12 months, the average day care center holds a state ratio (caregiver to child) of 1:5, while the premium or higher quality shows a ratio of 1:4. At its best, the day care can only offer 25% attention and care for your baby. The percentage is even less for the age two group which unveils a ratio of 1:8.
Other deficiencies parents need to consider is the physical health of their child, who is exposed to a greater measure of multiple incidences of common illnesses and communicable diseases. Also the likelihood of the child encountering the anti-social behavior (especially biting) of another child. Furthermore, entrusting the child into the hands of a stranger dangerously increases the chance of a serious risk incident.
We understand that there could be extenuating circumstances wherein the mother must work out of the home. However, the majority of situations are simply affected by the worldly, materialistic trend.
For a Christian, it would be unthinkable to entrust our child’s care to the ungodly, especially in this wicked generation that has gone so far as to have transgender drag queens coming in to read to children in some day cares, teaching them “acceptance” and “toleration.” God forbid that they should be left to the devil’s agenda!
What is your child missing by being absent from the home? It’s the special bond beginning at birth which grows stronger with each passing year, the beautiful one-on-one care, and the precious home atmosphere. There’s variety in the day that includes anything from observing the mother as she performs her household duties to shopping trips or simply socializing with siblings ranging in different ages to, most importantly, someone who is consistently in his life which provides comfort and security.
To the weary mother who longs to be a stay-at-home mom and mother her little ones, we offer you hope and help in the blessed church of God. Here the family unit is truly being restored! Dear mother, your child has only 1,820 days of early childhood from infancy to the age of five. Enjoy them! At this critical point of his psychological and emotional development, it is extremely crucial that your innocent child can freely dispose his trust in you.
William Ross Wallace wrote, “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.” Who is ruling your child? The mother or the day care?